You Owe Me A Coffee

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I’m not sure what upset me most – the fact that I’m a diva and like expensive coffee, so what I spit out at the remark had to be at least $2.12, or how someone so close to me understands so little about addiction. The comments were stemming from a recent news article detailing a story about two parents overdosing in a vehicle with small children in the back – tragic, but common within the opioid epidemic this nation is facing. “How could they not think about those children?” It would’ve been more comfortable to staple my eyelids to my forehead instead of the constant eye rolling, “It has nothing to do with the love they have for their children. These are sick people who need help.” I could tell, like most awkward silences, that this one had a 50/50 shot of either being the beginning of a common understanding surrounding the topic (which is literally my daily life), or fuel the ego straight to the top of a mountain I like to call, “You Suck and I Win.” Truth be told, from morning coffee to the boardroom, and meeting halls alike, this concept, or rather the argument of addiction being a moral choice versus a disease is a hot-button issue. How do we promote recovery, self-discovery, and purpose, while on the same hand condemning those who took the path of resistance? People always ask me, “If you could go back and change anything, would you?” My response is always the same, “The only thing I regret is hurting the people I cared for, but the experiences of that life propelled me to this one. My old life was a key to the new one. Ugh – that seems so backward, but it’s the truth. Yoda said it best in Revenge of The Sith – “Fear leads to anger, anger leads to hate, and hate leads to suffering. Suffering is the pathway to the dark side.” Yoda just said that once people deal with their fear of addiction, they stop the suffering of addiction. Yikes –stop, breathe, exhale.

English philosopher, biologist, anthropologist, sociologist, and political theorist, Hebert Spencer once said, “There is a principle which is a bar against all information, which is proof against all arguments and which cannot fail to keep a man in everlasting ignorance—that principle is contempt prior upon investigation.”

Translation – search for truth and meaning and then form your opinion based off facts.

Check out this article, Addiction: Character Defect or Chronic Disease?